Today, we celebrate dads. And while this year has been a whirlwind, it’s also been one of reflection. Just over a month ago, I lost my dad — and honestly, it still doesn’t feel real. You’d think today would be filled with sadness, but surprisingly, it isn’t. I’m thankful. Thankful for the time I did have with my dad and what we made of it. Would I have wanted more? Absolutely. But I find peace in knowing he’s no longer suffering and is up there visiting with all the other great dads in heaven.
Father’s Day is a time to honor the men who raised us — but it also makes me reflect on what it really means to be a dad. I spent the first 15 years of my life in California without my biological dad. But that didn’t mean I didn’t have one. My Grandpa Stringfellow stepped in when I needed someone most. He had my back always, teaching me about love, morals, how to treat a wife, and so much more. He was my hero. His wisdom, his faith, and his presence shaped who I am. I miss him deeply, especially today.
I was also raised by an amazing single mom who tried so hard to be both parents. If only she knew that I never needed her to be anything but my mom — and she was more than enough.
I’ve had many father figures along the way:
• My crazy uncle, who brought joy, fun, and spontaneity into my life — always down for a random movie night or wild idea.
• Rob’s dad, Paul, and Dee — they treated me like one of their own and helped carry me through my high school years. I’ll always cherish the times at their house (and the Little Caesars!).
• And when I moved to Illinois and reconnected with my dad, I was given another chance to build that bond. That decision changed everything for the better.
And then came Grandpa Koehler — my wife Melissa’s grandfather. From the moment I met him, I felt like he would play a big role in my life… and I was right. Whether it was welcoming my grandma and Mark at our wedding with kindness and fresh produce (which meant so much to her), or falling asleep in the Camaro during our drives, or just his love and wisdom — he made a lasting impact.
So today, if you’re celebrating the dads in your life, don’t forget to honor the ones who may not have had the title — but filled the role in every way that mattered. These men are just as important. And I’m so grateful for every single one who helped shape my life.
Happy Father’s Day to all the dads — and the ones who became dads in their own way. 
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